It is funny, I was recently speaking to a lover from over 20 years ago. She was talking to me about how hot we were because we took the time to learn each others likes and dislikes. I remember not knowing her body and explored it concentrating in places more when she reacted favorably. We rarely talked about what we liked or wanted. Probably didn't do certain things because we were to shy to ask. I wonder if it would have been better with words. You see I have to say that the biggest turn on sexually for me is to have a lover that knows what she wants and how to get if from or with me. Whether it is a verbalized request or a movement of our bodies the most spectacular moments in my sexual life is when passion focused by direction. No sloppy grabbing, pinching, pushing, but intentional touching.
Now I can say surprises are great. Doing something spontaneous that is found remarkably pleasurable and unexpected is wonderful. Like my old lover and I can think of one thing that rolls around in my head since that really turns me on. A moment of spontaneity that led to a fabulous orgasm for both of us and yet neither knew we would enjoy it so much.
It is like playing a complex video game. Scrambling around a level finding the hidden items that gives you the power to move on or reading the cheat sheets from the internet. Either way you get what you want, one harder but both satisfying.
So I wonder how hard it is for you who by reading this must have some sexual comfort, how do you mostly communicate. Do you tell, show, or simply react. I wonder in part because as I am slowly moving back to writing stories I want to make them resonant more with my readers by adding some reality.
So my question is to you want your lover to play the game or get a cheap sheet?